Parents should not push children too hard

Parents should refrain from pushing their children to excel at all costs, new research has suggested. A study from Michigan State University found high-achieving Chinese students are often more anxious and depressed than their peers.

Desiree Baolian Qin, Assistant Professor in the Department of Human Development and Family Studies at the institute, claimed a child's happiness is essential to their development.

As such, Ms Qin was arguing against the Eastern 'tiger' view of raising a youngster - which promotes a son or daughter's success above their enjoyment of life.

Ms Qin stated: "I strongly believe that happiness matters tremendously for children to develop well, so they don't just have success now and then later on experience maladjustment."

Kids should therefore be raised to be well-rounded and emotionally healthy, while also understanding the importance of being able to work well with others.

Dr Carol Valinejad, a Chartered Psychologist and Consultant Clinical Psychologist, commented: "Happiness generates success and not the other way around. Research shows that children whose self-directed development is encouraged within a loving and relaxed atmosphere are more likely to be happy and successful later on in life.

"Anxiety is created within children when they are forced to take on tasks before they are ready to, which can in fact impede their ability to succeed.

"An understanding that children already have the potential to be successful, when exposed to the right environment is essential to raising well adjusted and balanced individuals."

Different cultures have different backgrounds and different experiences, so it may be difficult to generalise this research to different countries don't you think ?

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