Friendship and unrequited love

Not all friendships dissolve once one person reveals he or she fancies the other, only for this feeling not to be reciprocated. New research from Boise State University has found that while many pals may drift apart after such a revelation, not all mates do the same.

Heidi Reeder, Associate Professor of Communication at the learning institute, discovered there are clear differences in friendships that last once one party confesses their feelings to the other and pairings that do not carry on.

According to the findings, those who last the course tend to actively pursue the friendship, honestly want to keep the bond alive and are accepting that the feelings were mutual.

Friendships that dissolve, on the other hand, can become awkward, resulting in lack of eye contact and long silences.

Ms Reeder said it is fine for people to find themselves in this situation, adding: "Try not to blame yourself, and try not to blame the other person. You can keep the friendship if you remember certain tips and keep calm."

Dr Abigael San, Chartered Psychologist, commented: "Whilst some people can cope with maintaining a bond with another person whose feelings are inconsistent with their own, this ability to manage conflicting emotions in a friendship is not achievable by all.

"What determines this being possible or not would be interesting to explore further and may shed light on characteristics or situations that may make accommodating conflicting emotions easier.

"Ultimately this might allow people to make choices about whether, when, why or how they will make their feelings known to others who may not feel similarly about them."